Mistakes? Regrets? Unfulfilled promises and dreams?
So what you have failed this year? You can always try again!
Another year is here! It is amazing how fast time flies unnoticed. Just when it feels like we are just beginning to get the hang of the year 2012 we are suddenly reminded by the calendar that the year has closed and it is the beginning of a new one. It is natural to reflect on the year past, to remember, cringingly, resolutions we made in January 2012, to be better version of ourselves, which we never fulfilled.
For many people last year has gone without much achievement. For me that year was littered with regret, and failure. I made grandiose plans and promises to myself but by middle of the year I found that I was going round in circle with no major achievement. I was left at the end of last year with fear, regrets and anxiety.
Sometimes regretting our past actions and wishing we had spent our time differently or done some things a little different can make us feel like a failure. You should be thankful; you are alive so you can try again this year! The big lesson for many of you here is GRATITUDE because you are exactly where you need to be right now. We human beings have the ability to choose what filter to put over our mind. You can choose to remain in defiant reactionary state of regret or you can choose to believe you are exactly where you need to be. Yes you have made bad choices but you can choose to wallow in regrets or you can get up and realize that you are right where you need to be right now. Everything you have done last year has in some way contributed to where you are today. The purpose of the whole experience was to get you to finally take a moment to reflect on who you are, where your values lie, what you are wishing for the future and let it guide you to the path where you want to be. Be grateful for your whole experience this year.
In order to embrace the new, we must release the old. Just let go of all could have, would have, should have of 2012! An important part of making this year a success is to review the past year—to release it—and to learn from it.
The following questions should stimulate your thinking for this process. I hope that you take time out of your busy schedule to ponder where you are and where you’ve been. Talk with people you care about. Write out your thoughts and feelings. Reflect upon what you did, how you felt, what you liked, what you didn’t and what you learned. Try to look at yourself and your experience with as much objectivity as you can—much like a biographer would. You should ask yourself “For what am I particularly grateful?” Consider listing all the things in your life of which you’d like to let go—anything you no longer want. Give thanks for what they’ve brought you in terms of learning and usefulness and then fold the list away. It’s a symbolic gesture to help you release the old and be open to the new. The next step is to list what you do want—experiences, knowledge, material things, relationships. The point is you will eventually let go and move on. Believe that you’re a strong, smart, capable person; you’ll find ways to make this new direction meaningful for you. It’s hard to think that way when you feel your dream job slipping through your fingers, or you miss someone who made your life wider than it could possibly be long. What’s important to remember is that no matter what changes or slips away, you can still do something meaningful and fulfilling right from where you are.
Regrets can overwhelm your sense of optimism and possibility. Each experience is a lesson in the journey that you have chosen and embarked upon. You should embrace the good and the bad and trust that you are exactly where you should be on your journey in this life! Everyone wish to experience a lasting happiness, but that no one can live a life without experiencing problems and setbacks that reduce our happiness. True happiness must be sought from within. Letting go of Regret, shame and blame, are the ways to liberate ourselves, and others, from the pain of suffering.
Just as no one else can be happy for you, no one else can be responsible for taking away your unhappiness, your regret, your suffering. Letting go of the past is really a great reminder of why living in the present is so important.
Moving on from the past and your regrets can seem difficult, but that’s a belief in itself, and remember, the only person in charge of your beliefs and thoughts is you. With a little bit of self-love, gentle awareness, and patience, you can learn to let go of your regrets and thrive in the present!
Don’t get stuck in a cycle of feeling sorry for yourself, though. Pitying yourself won’t help you. Choose to stop focusing on the past. You are in command of what you regret and what you hold on to, and by first making the conscious choice to start letting go you can be confident in yourself that you will be able to move on. Feel yourself in the present, your surroundings. The rest of 2012 is simply no longer part of right now. Think of how you can make today better. Could you apologize to someone or do something else right now to change the situation or move on from this? Or if it’s a situation that can’t be affected at this point, remember that you can’t change the outcome. What you can do, however, is choose what you will do next time if a similar situation happens again, or what you do now. Be thankful for everything in the past. Yes, I’m telling you to feel gratitude for anything you regret or think was terrible in your past. Whatever happened is not to be regretted, but instead to be a lesson. If you keep on dwelling on the negative aspects of it, you might miss out on a wonderful opportunity to grow. Think about how you can learn from this or how it’s made you into a more resilient and capable person. Letting go of the past is necessary before you face your future it is necessary to do so before you can face your future with any real sense of fearlessness.
Those people who have accepted their mistakes/failures and moved on from times gone by are much better equipped to deal with what is going to happen in their future. If you are really serious about learning to face your future with bravery you need to let go of the past. Accept your failures and mistakes and let go of that baggage.
The future can be created your future is in your hands. No body is going to make anything happen for you unless you go out and try to achieve it yourself. Now, instead of being depressed by this fact it is important to realize that you are in an extremely hopeful place. You are living in a time and a place where opportunities are everywhere. At no other time in history have human beings been able to give up their livelihood and search for something new or something better. But we can. Why fear the future when we have control over it? Why worry about the next few days or weeks when we know we can do something about it now? And while everyone tells you to live in the present moment you still need to make preparations for tomorrow. That is fine as long as you do it with mindfulness and awareness.
For those who are in a time of personal struggle, it can feel ridiculous to think that gratitude or joy is a choice, but it is. The truth is, no matter what your situation, you always have a choice in how you choose to perceive your reality. When a person connects with a deep feeling of gratitude, things change. Connecting to gratitude can transform relationships, it can give you energy and strength, it can give you the creative ideas that you need to change your situation, it can relieve stress and pressure, it can actually change your life. There are deliberate actions you can take to fuel your inner champion and awaken a real sense of gratitude regardless of what you’re experiencing
How to Trigger Gratitude
watch your words! – When we feel stuck and frustrated or down, we tend to use strong words that reinforce our negative emotions. These strong words also reinforce how we perceive our reality. It’s imperative that you rephrase your words. Words are powerful, they affect how we feel, and how we feel affects how we see reality, that affects whether or not we’ll have inspired creative solution ideas, and that affects whether or not our lives will change.
When you can write down everything that you can feel grateful for, take a close look around you and give some deep quality attention, really take it in. Think of any and all of your past successes, think of things you’ve done well, think of things you can be proud of so that you can feel the gratitude. Make the deliberate choice to feel grateful. Take a different look at your challenges because of difficult times, you have the opportunity to use your strength, your courage, your mind to explore solutions and experience your potential. Because of your mistakes you’ve learned valuable lessons, and you may now be even closer to success. Your challenges will let you grow and evolve into more than you were. This deepens your life experience and awakens that champion within you. If you knew you were born for more, then now you get to create it for yourself. If your fears got the best of you in the past, you now have the opportunity to be courageous and brave. Your window of opportunity may feel like fear, but each time you get a chance to win. If you’re disappointed in how life seems to have turned out just know that it’s not over until you’re dead. You’ve got the gift of time. You’ve got the gift of mind and intelligence. You’ve got more gifts than you realize, and they will show themselves as you push yourself forward. If your heart is broken by a lover, a friend, life in general, you can grieve the loss, but don’t take too long before you take a fresh new look. There are opportunities even if you can’t see them yet, they are there. You’ve been released. It will feel good to pick yourself up and travel on a new road. If you’re exhausted, it means you dug in deep, found your grit and made real effort. You left no stone unturned. You didn’t fail to fight. You make your inner champion proud. To be alive, means you have the chance to experience wonderment. All things are possible, and your open heart, open mind, and your gratitude will guide you. Regardless of your situation, there are always ways to tap into gratitude. Being thankful, feeling a deep appreciation can create miracles. It can open doors, create new thoughts, and guide us to amazing life experience. Adversity can make us incredibly compassionate people; it can transform us, so we may be of real help to others.
Mistakes? Regrets? Unfulfilled promises and dreams?